When honesty offends

Life is impossible.

Or rather social life is impossible, because just living is relatively simple; we are surrounded by everything we “need” to live. What about what we want though? Friends, lovers, good bosses or good employees are all earned through social interaction, a skill that takes most people the first 20 years of their lives to learn; and many never quite perfect it, ever.

We are told to be fair, to be honest, to be mature and to think things through. Then we are pushed to be the best, anyway we possibly can, sometimes by humiliating our opponent and all so quickly that most of our important decisions are taken on the spot, or else we risk losing the opportunity presented.

Maybe the reason social interaction is more of an art than a science is that everybody is different and everybody then acts differently all the time, with no real pattern or rules. Why? We have emotion, and we have reason, and the two are in a constant battle for dominance. We should determine what we want with our hearts, and then how to achieve it with our minds, but there’s no switch. You can’t just turn off emotion when it would be convenient, nor can you turn off reason. Some might argue that there are ways to turn off reason, but let’s not get into recreation.

Honesty is what everybody wants, but we reward those who lie far too greatly for any real honesty to be an option. I personally subscribe to the idea that verbal communication is inherently dishonest. At best it is always inaccurate and at worst pure fabrication, but what is the difference. After all, we don’t talk to one another for the sake of understanding and being understood. Talk is to social interaction what a tennis racket is to tennis. Talk is a tool, and the way you wield it will ultimately decide the outcome.

We want honesty, but we want that honesty to be in line with what else we want, like a girl, or a friend, or a discount, or a raise. When you are in a situation to properly evaluate a socialite, verbal communication is only one of the many characteristics you rate them by, but when you just meet someone or are never really in a position to evaluate them based on verifiable facts, you have only their words.

Words are inaccurate. At best we both know the dictionary definition and at worst we associate experiences so incompatible with the same word that we argue or judge or mistake and the illusion of a communication bridge between two people seems more and more distant.

We are biased by our experiences and what truths we have accepted into our psyche. We are blind when others utter words we know we do not understand, and we are lied to when we understand something other than what the speaker intended to convey.

Honesty is in the eye of the beholder.

natural selectionScience and technology have progressed immensely of the course of the last few hundred years. Medical science alone has saved millions through prevention by means of vaccines and hygiene. It is getting to a point where common diseases, viruses and bacteria, are no match for our modern medicines. From those efforts nature has isolated super viruses and super bacteria that are resistant to our drugs and methods. Whereas we once thought we might live in an era without sickness and disease, we are now realizing that the cat and mouse game of life and death is far from over.

Natural selection, as probable as it is misunderstood, doesn’t seem to be a major factor in life anymore. People with bad genes still mate, and people who get sick now get better; even people who can’t walk, talk or even function in society are still afforded a place among us, and why wouldn’t they if we are able to sustain them?

The idea is that the weak and the unworthy of each species would fail to find a mate and thus their genes would no longer be part of the gene pool, while beneficial mutations would win out and make the species stronger, and better seems a far and distant ideal. Give it some thought and it may even be one of those awkward aspects of life that sounds good until you realize the propensity for disaster.

If a genetic mutation caused a single mother to give birth to countless children, all with the same ability, then that gene would usually win out, but overpopulation would quickly exhaust the resources necessary to sustain said population and thus would die out. It is clear then that while “survival of the fittest” alludes to individuals who are more capable of adapting to their surroundings, this is not always the case, and history makes quick work of such natural selection problems, as nature always retakes it’s place as giver of life, as well as that which takes life away.

In the long run natural selection can not result in altogether stronger, smarter or better forms of life, but instead a balance thereof, because any dominating species will almost assuredly bring about it’s own demise.

Humans, we think, could be an exception to that natural rule. We have the intellect and planning capabilities to overcome the limitations that other dominant species have encountered. Sadly it appears that the sheer number of humans on this earth is going to make any real common effort towards sustaining ourselves very difficult.

For the time, war, disease, poverty and crime end most of our lives and still more attention is paid on short sighted selfish goals, most of which indirectly enable war, poverty, disease and crime to overcome us.

It is often mistated that many men and women are trying to save the earth. This is inaccurate though, the earth will live on regardless of the impact humans have on it. Saving the earth, as we proclaim it, is really only saving ourselves.

 

 

Kindness

Act of kindness

 

The world is full of beauty and wonder, but it is also a harsh place. Life is a struggle from beginning to end and things get very hard when we forget that we only grow through pain and only learn from challenges.

If something is hard, but you know the outcome will be positive, that is an indication that it is well worth the sweat and blood. Taking the easy road almost always leads to more hardship; we grow weak and tired when we avoid earning our spoils. When things are too good to be true, they generally are.

We live in a world where half the population is more concerned about “Freedom”, a term so often misunderstood and twisted to mean exactly the opposite of what it really means: responsibility, rather than respect and the life giving ecosystems we depend on. Freedom is not doing whatever you want whenever you want, that is anarchy. Freedom is respecting the world around you enough so that everyone has personal freedom to live how they see fit, so long as they do not encroach on the freedom of others of course.

Kindness is easy, it is free and wonderful, but it’s not “cool”. What is “cool” these days is more closely related to “not giving a fuck”, to excess and intolerance of change. To be open to new ideas often comes across as not having a mind of your own, while resistance to the very real and ever changing world only makes things hard, but without the positive outcome.

Then there’s this constant demand from the feeble minded that those around them change to be more like them. Even intelligent people with proper morals and life styles seem to think they can change others and that they have the right to do so in the first place. Fact is rights are an illusion, we are thrust into this unforgiving world and physically anything can happen. The law doesn’t prevent, it only punishes.

The real solution is kindness, respect and tolerance. Too many short sighted individuals escalate situations instead of de-escalating them. You cannot solve a situation by applying more of the same problem to it, and that’s what violence is, a problem. Love is violence’s only enemy, whereas more violence almost always makes the problem worse.

Some people would call me a hippie, and that’s okay, but really I am not all peace and love, I just think ahead; I see the future I want and I act in the present to give myself the opportunity to achieve it. I don’t see a bright future where between now and then is violence, intolerance, hatred and fear. We need to communicate, agree to disagree; we need to let research, history and science guide our paths, not men and their flawed ideals and biases. But I won’t pretend to want to force this on anyone else, all I can do is live it, and be kind.

Respect our environment

Planet-Earth-pictureForget CO2 emissions, what about what we’re dumping into the oceans, what about the garbage we stuff in old mines or in dumps, what about the satellite images of pollution coming off of developing nations, what about how we treat animals, and how we treat and respect each other?
Freedom isn’t doing what ever you the fuck you want, when ever the fuck you want, because your freedom ends where everybody else’s begins. We all have responsibilities to live up to to ensure the best possible “freedoms”, and that starts with treating our environment with respect. We depends on it for our very lives, and yet some see no reason to respect it even the slightest bit.

Inputting the future

One of man kind’s great advantages in the circle of life is our ability to craft tools. Using tools is easy enough, but the ability to imagine new ones, create them and in some cases use those tools to make even better tools [toolception] is huge.

Fast forward to the computer age. First there was the punch card, then the keyboard and mouse, each with their advantages and disadvantages but all created to facilitate input and produce more tools.

It seems that our primary input methods have plateau’d, is this the best way to interact with complex systems? Are motion detectors, eye tracking cameras and mind readers the next wave?

One thing is clear, whoever comes out with the true successor to the keyboard and mouse is going to revolutionize technology. We’re not talking about replacing the mouse with something else to move the cursor, but the end of the cursor, of typing and of all input bottlenecks, at least, until the next best method is invented…Human Brain as computer pathways

Ten Choices You Will Regret in 10 Years

Of all the words of mice and men the saddest are "It might Have Been."
Regret Of all the words of mice and men the saddest are “It might Have Been.”
  1. Wearing a mask to impress others. – If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it. Because when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you really are. So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you. You don’t have to be perfect to impress and inspire people. Let them be impressed and inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.
  2. Letting someone else create your dreams for you. – The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are; the second greatest is being happy with what you find. A big part of this is your decision to stay true to your own goals and dreams. Do you have people who disagree with you? Good. It means you’re standing your ground and walking your own path. Sometimes you’ll do things considered crazy by others, but when you catch yourself excitedly losing track of time, that’s when you’ll know you’re doing the right thing. Read The 4-Hour Workweek.
  3. Keeping negative company. – Don’t let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you. Don’t let them get to you. They can’t pull the trigger if you don’t hand them the gun. When you remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation, you free yourself to keep the company of compassion instead of anger, generosity instead of greed, and patience instead of anxiety.
  4. Being selfish and egotistical. – A life filled with loving deeds and good character is the best tombstone. Those who you inspired and shared your love with will remember how you made them feel long after your time has expired. So carve your name on hearts, not stone. What you have done for yourself alone dies with you; what you have done for others and the world remains.
  5. Avoiding change and growth. – If you want to know your past look into your present conditions. If you want to know your future look into your present actions. You must let go of the old to make way for the new; the old way is gone, never to come back. If you acknowledge this right now and take steps to address it, you will position yourself for lasting success. Read The Power of Habit.
  6. Giving up when the going gets tough. – There are no failures, just results. Even if things don’t unfold the way you had expected, don’t be disheartened or give up. Learn what you can and move on. The one who continues to advance one step at a time will win in the end. Because the battle is always won far away and long before the final victory. It’s a process that occurs with small steps, decisions, and actions that gradually build upon each other and eventually lead to that glorious moment of triumph.
  7. Trying to micromanage every little thing. – Life should be touched, not strangled. Sometimes you’ve got to relax and let life happen without incessant worry and micromanagement. Learn to let go a little before you squeeze too tight. Take a deep breath. When the dust settles and you can once again see the forest for the trees, take the next step forward. You don’t have to know exactly where you’re going to be headed somewhere great. Everything in life is in perfect order whether you understand it yet or not. It just takes some time to connect all the dots.
  8. Settling for less than you deserve. – Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve. Sometimes you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand up taller than you ever were before. Sometimes your eyes need to be washed by your tears so you can see the possibilities in front of you with a clearer vision again. Don’t settle.
  9. Endlessly waiting until tomorrow. – The trouble is, you always think you have more time than you do. But one day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to work on the things you’ve always wanted to do. And at that point you either will have achieved the goals you set for yourself, or you will have a list of excuses for why you haven’t. Read The Last Lecture.
  10. Being lazy and wishy-washy. – The world doesn’t owe you anything, you owe the world something. So stop daydreaming and start DOING. Develop a backbone, not a wishbone. Take full responsibility for your life – take control. You are important and you are needed. It’s too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday. Someday is now; the somebody the world needs is YOU.

Source: http://www.whydontyoutrythis.com/2014/05/ten-choices-you-will-regret-in-10-years.html

Uncertainty principle

Any sufficiently intelligent species capable of space travel would never interfere with a planet like ours, just making contact would rob us of our destiny, of our chance to build our own society in this universe.
Unless the uncertainty principle is a fallacy, we’ll never meet any of the alien races out there; they will make sure to avoid detection, because they are no longer arrogant like we are.

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Even observation changes the outcome of an event… therefor observation = interference.

The prime directive is necessary for a healthy universe; species must earn their place among the stars on their own.

Life is incredible

People really love to complain, I mean “love” it. Among good friends it is more rare to regularly hear complaining, venting or just generally negativity.

What’s the big deal? More often than not complaints do nothing to address the problem and in fact drain valuable energy and time from the people experiencing the problem.

Furthermore, venting has been shown to actually exacerbate the situation. Those who express their negative feelings tend to reinforce them rather than “let them go”. There have been scientific studies done to prove it.

If you are safe, well fed, clothed and sheltered, you do not have any real pressing problems. Your stress is unfounded and your attitude is your only problem. Realize the limitations of what you control and what you do not and you will be free.

Just the fact that your are alive is mind blowing, don’t forget it.

The problem is not the problem, the problem is your attitude about the problem.

The less fortunate

We live in a new kind of society, where kids leave the house at 18 and never come back. We don’t take care of our parents anymore and some us don’t have even kids that could take care of us anyway.
We’ve replaced familial obligations with freedom and individuality. That is all fine and good, so long as we replace the help our elderly used to receive with something else. Hardships used to be everyone’s problem; you couldn’t neglect the poor and the weak because they lived on your doorstep, in smaller villages. They had a name and a face and their problems weren’t brushed off as laziness or entitlements or some other bullshit excuse some people give.
Moreover, some people are not as luck as we are, they don’t have the smarts, the looks or the contacts that we have. Things that simple and common sense to us are hard and confusing to them. The less fortunate need the help of the fortunate, it has always been that way and it will always be that way.

We can keep denying reality, and watch the lives or people around us crumble, or we can stop complaining and start helping.India_poor

Obliviously me…

When I was about 17 I was out with some friends on the mountain . On the way home I ended up walking with one of the girls, and being a gentleman I dutifully walked her back to her apartment which was sort of on the way. She lived there with her sister, who was currently out of town.

She asked if I wanted to come up with her but I didn’t really want to; I was just thinking of how I was going to get home (it was already pretty late). Finally she convinced me to “come check out her place”, after showing me her place, in her room she jumped on the bed and said I could sleep over because it was so late, she added that she didn’t want to be alone, probably that she was cold too, all the tricks…

Somehow, against all odds and sanity, I did not get the hint. So trying to be polite, I excused myself and left so that I wouldn’t “overstay my welcome”. Like, I actually remember saying that…
I never really thought about it again until I was like 26 or something, but when I put it all together I was like “omfg wtf was wrong with me!?!”

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It’s weird, because they say guys think of sex all the time, but even with all those hints I never once considered she was hitting on me. She was pretty hot too… and what’s worse? She MUST of assumed that I straight up rejected her, it even sort of explains why she was kind of awkward around me for the next 7 fucking years…